When Mark Wahlberg revealed his punishing fitness regime last month, it sounded all too familiar to Anna Lumley-Noble, 44, a youth centre manager from London.
Biting my lip in agony, I gripped the side of the hospital bed. I was a few hours into labour and desperately wanted to squeeze my husband Trevor’s hand as another contraction hit – but I couldn’t.
He’d just popped out for a Nando’s, because even the birth of our daughter Robyn couldn’t get in the way of his meticulously timetabled diet.
While most women would have been calling their other half all the names under the sun for disappearing at such a crucial moment, I wasn’t.
I knew when I agreed to marry him that Trevor, 55, was a health fanatic who trained at all hours of the day and night and needed to eat every four hours – labour or no labour.
I met Trevor, an engineer, in 2008 at a pub in London while I was on a night out with friends.
He told me he was 10 years older than me, but he was so ripped, with bulging biceps and a visible six-pack, he certainly didn’t look it.
With all his muscles he stood out from the crowd and I fancied him from the word go. I had never met anyone like him. Back then, I went to the gym around once a week, and it was obvious he went more often – but it never occurred to me it might rule his life.
Within two months, Trevor had moved in with me. By then I knew he exercised daily, but it was only once we lived together that I grasped the extent of his obsession.
If he couldn’t fit in a workout during the day, he’d go to his 24-hour gym at 11pm and stay for three hours. The booze-fuelled dates we went on in the early days of our relationship soon fizzled out, as Trevor preferred exercising to going for drinks.
At first, it caused tension as I couldn’t understand why he’d want to forgo fun evenings out. But deep down, I knew Trevor was addicted to the buzz of the gym and healthy eating – he’d been living like this for almost 30 years before I met him, and he wasn’t suddenly going to change. I had to either put up or get out, and I loved him too much to let it destroy our relationship.
Another thing I learned was how rigid his diet was. When I first met him he’d have the odd takeaway with me, but after we moved in together that stopped. In fact, Trevor followed a strict 5,000-calorie-a-day diet that had to include 200g of protein and 300g of carbs, which meant he had to have around six meals a day, along with 3L of water.
I’d often get up in the morning to find him sinking a protein shake with raw egg whites, cottage cheese and porridge oats for breakfast. Just the thought of it made my stomach turn.
Instead of sharing romantic dinners, we’d often end up eating different meals because Trevor wouldn’t veer from his two chicken breasts or two salmon fillets with new potatoes and loads of veg.
Although I liked chicken and fish, I couldn’t stand eating the same things every night, so I would make myself spaghetti Bolognese or a stir-fry. At weekends, I’d want to order a pizza or curry but
Trevor would refuse, saying it was too greasy, lacked protein or had the “wrong type” of carbs.
Of course, there were days I got annoyed. I would have loved for us to have a drunken evening out or tuck in to pizza and garlic bread while we binged on a box set.
But I never let it put me off Trevor, especially as there were so many positive things about him – he was so intelligent and hard-working, and he made me laugh.
When we married in September 2010, I was a slim size 10, but after I had our daughter Robyn in March 2012 and son Jackson in August 2013, I just didn’t have time to exercise or watch my diet, and I crept up to a size 16 and 13st.
It was hard feeling flabby and unfit while my husband looked like the Hulk. And he didn’t ease off the fitness regime once we had kids, either – he was just as dedicated as ever.
That didn’t mean he wasn’t a great dad, though. Instead of going to the gym during the day, he would just go in the evening, after he’d made time to play with the kids.
Admittedly, there were times I worried he might go off me as I didn’t look anywhere near as good as he did. I tried not to let it get to me, but I was aware other women checked him out all the time because of his amazing physique. In my heart I knew he would never be unfaithful, but I felt so insecure, I couldn’t help thinking about it.
We never talked about my weight – Trevor was too kind to ever comment on it, and I never brought it up with him. But it did bother me, so in summer 2016 I decided to take action and get in shape.
I began doing the 5:2 diet, sticking to my usual eating habits five days of the week but restricting my calorie intake on the other two. I also started going to the gym a couple of times a week, and after a year I was back down to a size 12, weighing about 101/2st. I felt so much more confident.
Over the years I’ve grown used to the attention Trevor gets wherever he goes – and not just from other women.
Whenever we go on a beach holiday, he’s constantly asked for photos because everyone thinks he’s a famous sportsman.
Just this summer in Corsica, the kids and I had to spend ages waiting while people took snaps with him. He’d try to tell them he wasn’t a celebrity, but I think they just assumed he was being modest.
Being on holiday doesn’t mean days off from the regime, either. Before we book anything, we have to make sure the hotel has a good gym and the restaurant serves the right type of food for Trevor’s diet. If we’re self-catering, there has to be a gym nearby.
At home, his regime can get in the way of family life, too. Trevor only trains once at the weekend, but it means our time together has to be built around the day he chooses, as he’ll put in a few hours at the gym.
If we ever venture out to dinner as a family, it ends up being a pretty bizarre meal, as there’s usually nothing Trevor will want on the menu so only the kids and I eat while he nurses a glass of water!
But despite all that, there’s a lot to be gained from having a super-fit hubby. I’m still really attracted to him, which means everything is great in the bedroom department – well, that’s on the days he gets home from the gym before midnight! And his dedication is massively attractive to me, too.
It’s what makes Trevor Trevor, and it’s pushed us to be a healthy, active family, which is great for the kids. At the end of the day, I just have to keep reminding myself that he could be doing much worse things.Tattoed 'Muslim soldier' Yakiboy who infuriates critics with his ‘haram’ body art, trains at high end gym
Plus, secretly, I love the fact that other women lust after my husband. Just don’t tell him that!
“I was a slim kid and always wanted to get bigger – my dream was to be like Arnold Schwarzenegger – so I started to train really hard once I hit 18.
I want to be as strong as possible and I like looking big and pumped, so I follow a strict diet to maintain a certain weight. It’s fair to say I’m addicted to the buzz of the gym.
I fully intend to be lifting weights at 80! I know Anna gets frustrated by my regime at times, although she rarely says so. I’m lucky to have such an understanding partner.”
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Trevor’s daily schedule
Meal 1: protein shake made of raw egg whites, oats and cottage cheese.
Meal 2: 180g of porridge and 1L of water.
Meal 3: another protein shake containing egg whites, oats and cottage cheese.
Meal 4: ready meal or sandwich containing as much protein as possible, eg a chicken and bacon sandwich, Bolognese or stroganoff and 1L of water.
Meal 5: chicken and rice or a bacon and egg sandwich.
Meal 6: two chicken breasts or two salmon fillets with new potatoes, lots of vegetables and 1L of water.
10pm – 1am
Three hours in the gym working on a different body part every day.
Photography: Tessa Hallmann
Additional photography: Chris Brandis-Shakeira Farnum/Mega
Hair & make-up: Sara Bowden
Source : https://www.thesun.co.uk/fabulous/7502908/married-to-a-gym-junkie/